"True Christian Motherhood"-- Soon to be Released!

Hey everyone! My mom, June Fuentes, wrote an ebook entitled "True Christian Motherhood" and it's going to be released real soon! Keep an eye out for it in the next couple weeks...

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Teen Dating

(I know this is not part of the series but I wanted to share this post sooner rather then later so. . .that's pretty much what I'm doing. =) My mom did this post on her blog about "teen dating". I think that many dating relationships are corrupt and not God glorifying. I'm NOT saying that all are but I do think that alot of them are not being done right and that's how we end up with people feeling abused, "broken-hearted", and self-focused. Read what my mom had to say on this topic. . .

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There is alot of teen dating going on in Christian circles today. I am not a proponent for teen dating. Here are a few reasons why:

1. Promotes impurity and lust. The Bible call's us to be pure and for older women to teach such things. Why would we put our children in situations were they might be tempted to sin against God in this area? If we are to teach these things we need to be careful about putting our children in tempting situations.

2. If they are dating, they're heartstrings will grow attached to eachother. This type of intimacy was meant for the person they were meant to marry, not for someone they are fleetingly seeing for a month or two (or a few days!). How would you feel meeting a women who had a serious relationship with your husband while he was younger? How would you feel meeting several women?

3. I believe that when you enter a relationship of that sort that you are prepared to be married or looking to be married. Most children at fifteen or sixteen years of age (or younger) are NOT prepared or looking for the long term.

4. Unnecessary psychological damage can ensue--a broken heart for someone not meant to be your spouse in the first place, and even more tragic if an unplanned pregnancy follows or STD.

5. We are putting children into roles they are not mature enough to handle.

6. Christian teens should look at their brothers and sisters in Christ with respect. They should look at them knowing that God has someone already planned to be their spouse and pray for them, not wanting to get in the way of that or be a stumbling block.

7. Often times rebellion can result because a son/daughter wants to be part of a relationship. They will turn against parents and their family to do this. Their rebellion affects the entire family and sometimes can cause younger children to follow suit.

8. They take on the attitude of the world. Many boys are out to 'use and abuse' to just fulfill their own sinful desires and girls as well. They don't cherish the other person or truly love them but end up tossing them aside when feelings change. This is not true love, this is plain selfishness. The victim is left trying to pick up the pieces feeling worthless and undervalued. Also, their hearts become more hardened and scarred with each relationship that by the time they do marry they have trouble trusting their spouses and could still be healing from past hurts.

9. Most importantly it can turn their hearts away from God. Where once the Lord may have been enthroned in their hearts, it is quickly replaced by 'the relationship'. They can become all consumed with the other party that their world revolves around them and quickly fall into idolatry.

10. Reputations are often slandered afterwards by the immature. Boys are seen as 'players', girls are painted as 'loose'. If we are to be ambassadors of Christ, we need to guard even our reputations closely.



A true suitor will wait. He will protect. He will do what it takes to win the heart of the lady he desires. He will not rush. He will pray. He would not be in a hurry to rush into a relationship.

A good way for a teen son to use their time is to grow in the Lord--reading their Bibles, doing studies and scripture/ book memorization. Sons could be about their fathers business learning the ways of a man, earning money, starting their own business or helping dad's, learning life skills fixing a car or using power tools, saving money for their futures, building or buying their own homes, taking college courses in high school (CLEP'ing) to advance their education, interning, preparing themselves for marriage, building up their local church, spreading the gospel. They do not need to pursue romantic relationships or spend their time idly watching hours of tv, surfing the net, playing video games, etc. These are time wasters and develop foolish appetites in a young man.

A daughter could be about the business of a woman--learning from the Bible, getting into the deep studies and memorization as well. She could learn a myriad of homemaking skills with her mother and her sisters and advancing her education . She should learn as many skills as she can in cooking, sewing, baking, gardening, home and time organization, childcare, animal care finances, industry, research and the list is absolutely endless. She could also be furthering whatever vision her father has for the home, ministry or business. She can learn to help the poor, serve at church and serve other families in time of need. This would be a wonderful and God honoring way to use her time.

Parents falsely think their children will be missing out on something if they are not dating. This is false and wordly thinking. We need to get back to thinking biblically. We should not have fear of man and or feel pressured by culture or family members. We must tune out the voices of this world, which may lead our children and families astray.

I know many parents set out trying to lay out before their children the foundation of purity and courtship and somewhere along the line it crashes and burns. My hearts are with you as I know it is by the grace of God that we are able to help our children through this and many of us are just learning about the courtship process ourselves. I know we must be vigilant as parents to help our children to obey the Lord and doing what it takes to help them do so.

My prayer is that the Lord would give us all wisdom and strength as we guide, protect, cherish and teach our children to honor the Lord through these precious and special years known as their youth.

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The Doll

I received this story in an email and was really touched by it. . .So I thought you would enjoy reading it, too--

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I was walking around in a Wal Mart store, when I saw a cashier

hand this little boy some money back.

The boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years old..

The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have

enough money to buy this doll..'



Then the little boy turned to the

old woman next to him: ''Granny, are you sure I don't have enough money?''

The old lady replied:'You know that you don't have enough money to

buy this doll, my dear.''

Then she asked him to stay there

for just 5 minutes while she went to look around. She left quickly..


The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand..


Finally, I walked toward him and

I asked him who he wished to give this doll to.


It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much for Christmas.

She was sure that Santa Claus would bring it to her.'


I replied to him that maybe Santa

Claus would bring it to her after all, and not to worry.

But he replied to me sadly.


'No, Santa Claus can't bring it to her where she is

now. I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can

give it to my sister when she goes there.'


His eyes were so sad while saying

this.. 'My Sister has gone to be with God. Daddy says

that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought

that she could take the doll with her to give it to my

sister.''


My heart nearly stopped..


The little boy looked up at me

and said: 'I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I

need her to wait until I come back

from the mall.'


Then he showed me a very nice

photo of himself. He was laughing.. He then told me 'I

want mommy to take my picture with her so she won't

forget me.'


'I love my mommy and I wish

she didn't have to leave me, but daddy says that she has

to go to be with my little sister.'


Then he looked again at the

doll with sad eyes, very quietly.


I quickly reached for my wallet

and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check again, just in

Case you do have enough money for the doll!''



OK' he said, 'I hope I do

have enough.' I added some of my money to his without

him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for

the doll and even some spare money..


The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!'



Then he looked at me and added,

'I asked last night

before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough

money to buy this doll, so that mommy could give it to my

sister. He heard me!''



'I also wanted to have enough

money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't

dare to ask God for too much.. But He gave me enough to buy

the doll and a white rose.''



'My mommy loves white roses.'



A few minutes later, the old lady returned and I left with my basket.



I finished my shopping in a

totally different state of mind from when I started.




I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind.



Then I remembered a local news

paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a

truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl.



The little girl died right away,


and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had

to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-sustaining

machine, because the young woman would not be able to

recover from the coma.




Was this the family of the little boy?





Two days after this encounter


with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young

woman had passed away.



I couldn't stop myself as I


bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home

where the body of the young woman was for people to see and

make last wishes before her burial.


She was there, in her coffin,


holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of

the little boy and the doll placed over her chest.


I left the place, teary-eyed,

feeling that my life had been changed for ever... The love


that the little boy had for his

mother and his sister is

still, to this day, hard to imagine.


And in a fraction of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.







Now you have 2 choices:

1) Send this message to others,

or

2) Ignore it as if it never

touched your heart.



The quote of the month is by Jay

Leno: "With hurricanes, tornados, fires out of control,

mud slides, flooding, severe

thunderstorms tearing up the

country from one end to the other, and with the threat of

swine flu and terrorist attacks, 'Are we sure this is a

good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?'"


For those who prefer to think

that God is not

Watching over us delete this, for the others ...


Pass it on!



God Bless!!!




Dear God:


The person reading this is beautiful and strong.

Help them live their life to the fullest.

Please promote them and cause

them to excel above their expectations.

Help them shine in the darkest

places where it is impossible to love.

Protect them at all times, lift

them up when they need you the most, and let them know

when they walk with you, they will always be safe.

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